What really matters........... Money or love?

Andrew Siboniso Gininda

Does having a lot of money make one better than other people? It surprise me to see that just because one does not have all the money in the world he has to be punished for that. A certain man tries all his best to make sure that he provides for his daughter but just because the mother of his baby is from a family that can afford whatever they want, this poor man has to suffer for that.

I used to think that all mothers want fathers to be part of their children even if they (the parents) broke up, I though they wanted their children to grow up knowing both their parents. I always knew that most fathers just decides that they don’t want to be part of their children’s lives but now I am confused when I see or hear a mother telling the father of her child that he will never see his child again and he must stop visiting that child. The worst part of it he is being told all that because he is not from a reach family.

This man has been told that he will never see his child ever again because of some situations he if facing. My question is that if I happen to have a baby with a girl whose family is rich if I can put it like that, does that family have to control me, tell me what to do, when and where to do it? This man was trying all he could to make sure that his baby is taken care of but just because he is not from a rich family he was taken to court and even social workers agreed with the baby mama’s family that he cannot see his baby anymore.

Just because my mother is a person who drinks alcohol, that means I have to be punished for that? This poor has problems and that was used against him so they could take his baby away from him. This is a situation he couldn’t control yet it was used against him. Is that how the law works in South Africa? They look at what you have? Does the law of this country says a man is not allowed to see his baby if he is unemployed and the mother can afford everything? Just because the family of the baby’s mother is rich that makes them better than the family of the baby’s father?

I don’t understand how the system of South Africa works and I would really appreciate if someone who is an expert in this situation would come and explain this whole thing to me because it is not like the father of the baby did not want to be part of his baby’s life, he wanted to and he never even tried to take anyone to court for the baby, he just wanted to be there for his baby regardless of their break up with the mother but now that chance of being a father has been taken away from him and it is very painful. If having all the money in the world make people better than others then I guess if one want to be part of his/ her baby’s life they just have to have babies with people in their league or standard.